My name is Pamela B. I am a retired Integrative Psychotherapist with a Master’s Degree in Social Work. Prior to private practice as a psychotherapist, I was employed, to work with children and families, in a county human services organization. In this blog, I will share both personal and professional life experience knowing that many others have been through extremely difficult experiences as I have. For me, I am an empath who survived a sociopath, domestic violence, stalking and harassment, family court corruption, maternal alienation, overwhelming scapegoating, chronic illness, series of vehicular accidents, etc. As Barbara Bentley states, it truly is a “Dance With the Devil” when one is married to a personality disordered male:
I survived a sociopath and much evil in my personal life. I believe we all are surviving sociopaths and psychopaths and much evil in our personal lives and in our world. We live in a pathocracy which is becoming more and more apparent to the masses. A pathocracy is the global order in a world controlled by psychopaths: https://pathocracy.net/
I write to care for others and for self. I have been demonized, by so many, for so long. I used to try telling the truth of my story. I thought it would stop the victim blaming. That did not work. Many did not want to hear it as it would challenge their belief system and it would challenge the power structure. Many wanted to blame the victim so they did not have to face reality.
“Many people, especially ignorant people, want to punish you for speaking the truth, for being correct. Never apologize for being correct, or for being years ahead of your time. If you’re right and you know it, speak your mind. Even if you are a minority of one, the truth is still the truth.” (Mahatma Gandhi)
I eventually decided to start writing. Writing was good for my soul and I no longer had to deal with those in denial. I realized that if anyone cares enough to stop the demonization, they will read and contemplate in order to open their mind. I no longer care what they think. I write, also, to leave a legacy so that family and future generations will have a history of how a sociopath and a pathocracy systemically dismantled the lives of my family and other relationships. Survivors of family and cultural pathology may, someday, have time to review, introspect, learn, and create a new way of living as I have.
“In a competitive world, the people who act immorally, who have no regard for truth, are going to have an advantage over those who play by the rules. The result is that those who achieve positions of power will be the most ruthless, the most sociopathic, the ones without conscience.
It is clear that this world has not been built by caring human beings, but has been constructed and is run by powerful hallow soulless individuals.
And, despite the violence, suffering and chaos they have caused, we allow them to remain at the top, and in control. https://pathocracy.net/
Together, we can learn from and care for one another. I will focus on topics including empaths, narcissists, sociopaths, domestic violence from a feminine perspective, family dynamics, substance abuse, stalking, family court crisis, holistic healing, parental alienation, spirituality, and creativity. Journaling and expressing ourselves is vital to healing and helps us connect with those who understand complex relationship dynamics.