It feels, to me, like a sobering post to realize our birth family did not have our best interests in mind. We were designated the family scapegoat role, of black sheep, in the narcissistic family regime. The narcissistic parent(s) were determined to destroy us in order to maintain their public image. They undermined and did not validate.
I have processed life experience, for years, from a psychological perspective. Currently, I am integrating a spiritual perspective. The spiritual perspective helps me discern the spiritual nature of the person I am dealing with. Basically, I discern whether a person in my life supports or destroys. If they destroy, I notice they initially come with charm and pretend to care. When they believe they have control, they start to devalue.
With education about narcissism, I now notice the devalue with both a drain in my energy and confusion because they are “people of the lie”. They do not admit what they are doing when confronted and, instead, blame their cruelty on me. While they pretend to care, underneath their act, they hurt me. This is because their nature is meant to destroy.
As empaths and family scapegoats, in a narcissistic family regime, we were conditioned to believe that something is wrong with us. So, until we recognize this lie, we automatically believe we are doing something wrong when narcissists devalue, hurt and blame us for what they are doing. As Denzo states, in the video below, we were the brightest, spiritual light in our birth family. The narcissist(s) in our family saw this anointing from a very young age. This anointing made the narcissists extremely uncomfortable. On very deep spiritual level, they could feel and see this light.
The narcissistic parent(s) will decide to make a sacrifice. The black sheep is the sacrifice. They will decide to shut down or dim the light of the black sheep. They know if the bright light keeps on shining in the family unit, they are going to be exposed. They know that very bad things will happen, in the family, if they are exposed. The parent(s) will usually go behind the back of the black sheep and not tell the secret of what they’re doing. The light is very dangerous for them and the entire family unit.
As the sacrifice, the life of the black sheep goes downhill. They struggle with lots of things while dragging one foot at a time. They will be in sleep mode, they will be there physically, but not understand what is happening to them. Meanwhile, the narcissistic parent(s) will use the bright light for their advantage. They will harvest both the blessings and destiny of the black sheep for their own benefit. Good things will happen in the family but the black sheep will look around the family unit and see they are the individual struggling the most. The black sheep will have problems with relationships, jobs, success, and/or health. Usually all family members are not aware of the narcissist’s decision to make the black sheep a sacrifice when they were a kid.
When the black sheep wakes up from the abuse and exits, they notice the entire family’s foundation starts to crumble. The black sheep starts claiming back everything taken from them. They break out of the family and claim back the light and destiny stolen from them many years ago. They see very serious, terrible things start to happen in the family unit. The narcissistic parent recruits the next empath to take the position of the black sheep. They know they’ve done something wrong years ago.
The black sheep of the family is a cycle breaker who thrives when they leave the unit. If they stay, problems continue and, in most cases, worsen. It is no coincidence what happened to the black sheep. The narcissistic parent(s) are afraid when the black sheep knows the secret of what was done behind their back. They call it dysfunction for a reason. The narcissistic family regime does not have the ability to harvest their own energy so they use other people’s energy to survive. Breaking the cycle is not a walk in the park.
Spirituality From an Energetic Perspective
I appreciate Denzo’s speaking of spirituality from the perspective of consciousness and energy (rather than from a religious perspective). What he teaches is what I have discovered:
- my birth family is a narcissistic family regime,
- the narcissists have personality disorders and take no responsibility for their actions,
- the family unit needs a black sheep, a sacrifice, to blame for family relationship problems,
- the narcissistic parent(s) made a decision to shut down or dim the light of the black sheep so their wrong actions are not exposed,
- the narcissistic parent(s) do not care about how making a black sheep a sacrifice affects their scapegoated child,
- the black sheep is labeled crazy, stubborn, a liar, etc. so that other people will not believe what the family unit is doing to the black sheep,
- the entire family tries to destroy the black sheep with various forms of abuse and deception,
- the black sheep works excessively hard to prove they are a good person,
- the black sheep is a good person, a shining light, who is a blessing to the family,
- the narcissistic family is made to look good via the success of the black sheep who works excessively hard for approval and acceptance,
- the black sheep is not validated nor ever approved of for who they really are in the narcissistic family regime,
- the black sheep is the one who becomes the “identified patient” as they break down from decades of abuse,
- the entire family blames and rages when the black sheep breaks down and is destroyed,
- the black sheep is in a no-win situation and is often forced to choose no contact,
- the narcissistic family regime will no longer benefit, from draining the energy of the black sheep and will struggle to survive, when the black sheep exits the family,
- the black sheep eventually will spiritually awaken, exit the narcissistic family regime, and will gradually recover and thrive.
With sadness, I conclude, that the narcissistic family regime violates universal spiritual law (natural law, moral law, karma) and reaps what they sow. “What you give to others shall be given to you.” It is the law of compensation as follows: https://millennial-grind.com/the-12-laws-of-the-universe-explained/
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